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1. Stages Of A Dating Relationship For Seniors Pictures
2. Stages In Relationships
3. The Stages Of Dating
4. Love Relationship
5. Dating
6. Stages Of A New Relationship
7. Early Stages Of A Relationship

With over 50% of marriages ending in separation and divorce, it is important that one prepares for a successful marriage by following God’s guidelines for courtship.

In modern society, a lot of people base love on feelings, on looks, or drama, which they misinterpret as passion.

Some men will deliberately provoke drama in order to cause emotional distress or feelings of jealousy within a woman ……by the way, this is a form of emotional abuse.

May 24, 2012 Death of a spouse and divorce are as much of a reality for seniors as it is for younger adults. Naturally there are some seniors who will seek companionship and new relationships and this will mean entering the dating world at a much older age. Sometimes there is resistance among the children of a senior seeking a new relationship. However, it has become more widely accepted these days that. For Valentine’s Day, Sunrise Senior Living polled its residents across the nation to find the key to achieving a long and happy marriage. The results were compiled into these Top 10 Love Tips.

Modern dating and traditional courtship are two very different things.

Modern dating is usually done as a recreational thing i.e. spending time with someone to have fun, engage in sexual pleasure and then see where it leads.

Whereas courtship is an intentional and purposeful process carried out with marriage as the ultimate goal.

It implies being in an honourable, exclusive, chaste, respectful, committed and loving relationship with a person of God’s choosing.

The main purpose of courtship is a process of looking to see if the person who is courting us has sufficient virtue to be a good husband and father – and vice versa.

In essence, you are auditioning him for the role of husband and father to your future children.

As a result, courtship is never done for an extended period of time or you increase the chances of falling into sexual sin.

Anybody that claims to be dating you or courting for 2 years or more is simply wasting your time.

It does not take 2 years or 6 years to know that this is the person you wish to marry and have a family with.

Courtship is of a short period with a definitive end.

It ends either in an engagement or in the dissolution of the relationship.

You do not date or court because you want to be someone’s girlfriend; you do so when you are ready to be a wife!!

If you are not ready, ie still in education, between jobs, involved in other commitments, you should not be dating. Period.

Fulfill that need for companionship by having female friends and engaging in other social activities or groups.

Unless courting, unmarried persons have no business in keeping company (ie spending lots of alone time together) with a member of the opposite sex.

Building a chaste, holy marriage begins before you get married and the only legitimate reason for company-keeping is courtship, which is a preparation for marriage.

Before embarking on a traditional Catholic courtship, you need to ensure that both you and your intended are prepared, spiritually, financially and mentally.

Catholic Courtship is the period after spiritual, mental and financial preparation has been completed.

You have to have it right with God, have it right with yourself and have it right with your finances (ESPECIALLY the man) before you begin considering courtship and marriage, if you want a life-long, healthy, happy and fulfilling marriage.

Proverbs 23:27 says, “Complete your outdoor tasks, and arrange your work in the field; afterwards you can establish your house.”

Stages Of A Dating Relationship For Seniors Pictures

There is a proper order and time for all things including romance.

The true man of virtue, who is mature and responsible, will ensure himself and his finances are in order, to properly care for his prospective wife and family, before embarking on courtship.

Otherwise, it is like a pilot planning a flight with insufficient plane fuel.

A man who is unemployed or not gainfully employed has no business courting.

If one is sure that one has a vocation to marriage, but is not yet able to court i.e. due to age, or still in school or not able to provide for a family, then one has no business keeping company with the opposite sex. You do not want to be an occasion of scandal or sin to the other person.

Stages In Relationships

It is a sin of presumption to place yourself in the danger of sin before you are able to provide for a family.

In summary, there are two main pre-requisites for courtship:

• You must be prepared financially, spiritually and mentally
• He must be in gainful employment and financially able to fulfill his prospective obligations as a husband by providing for his family

So now we know that courtship itself is a process, but what does this process entail?

Here are the stages of a traditional Catholic Courtship.

FRIENDSHIP STAGE

In this stage, you are primarily looking to see if

• you have things in common
• there is some physical attraction
• if he is able to take care of his marital obligations to protect and provide.

Highlights of this stage include:

• It should last no more than 3 months.
• You should avoid being alone together.
• You should avoid emotional intimacy.
• There is no exclusivity here – you should casually seeing others to broaden your options and avoid getting emotionally invested in one person until you get exclusive.
• There should be no signs of physical affection between you.
• Any dates or time spent together should be within a group setting or in the company of others.
• You get to know each other in a very casual manner via a few short telephone conversations and socializing together in group settings.

During this stage, you need to be completely detached in order to have clarity of judgment to determine whether he/she has virtue or not.

Regardless of how handsome or talented he may be or of how much money he has, if he has no virtue, you will be absolutely miserable in the marriage and will pay for it for the rest of your life.

Once you two have determined that you intend to court, he needs to approach your father or male head of the home to ask permission to court you and then you two move on to the next stage.

This 3 month stage is also important and can protect you as most toxic, narcissistic, dangerous or destructive people will reveal any RED FLAGSat this stage. And when you see this, you can easily walk away ad protect yourself because you are not heavily emotionally invested in them yet.

Be wary of anyone who is trying to rush the relationship or demand exclusivity before the 3 month mark – abusive and narcissistic people are notorious for doing this as it clouds your judgement and can make you blind to very obvious red flags that they display.

Also, ladies, if by the end of the 3 month mark, he has not conveyed his intentions of exclusivity or courtship with you, end the relationship. Regardless of whatever excuses he may throw up, he is deliberately wasting your time.

COURTSHIP STAGE

So you have decided you wish to court her, if you are a guy. Or you have decided to accept his request to court you, if you are a woman.

In this stage, you are primarily looking to see:

• if he has enough virtue as well as if he is able to practice moderation of his sexual desires towards you.
• if he able to sacrifices for you by showing self-denial and self-control in his sexual urges. If he is not man enough to make these sacrifices now, when you marry him, you will receive the nasty surprise of him being an adulterer or porn addict
• if this person will give you the best chance, as well as your future children, of getting to heaven.
• if he loves you. His love for you will be evidenced by his ability for sacrifice and the self-denial of his urges towards you, by his respect for your honour and your reputation, and also by his ability to do the hard work of providing for you.

Lose him if he is pushing for intimacy. He does not respect or love you; has no intention of marrying you and he simply wants to use and then discard you, like trash.

Highlights of this stage:

• It should last between 3 – 9 months.
• This is the Exclusive Stage and neither of you should be seeing any other.
• The other person should definitely NOT be on any dating apps or websites.
• There should be no sign of physical affection between you as you need to be detached so you can objectively discern if you should marry him
• You should avoid being alone together; this shows respect for God and respect for the person that you claim to love
• You will be spending a little bit more time together in this stage, but you need to avoid late night dates and ensure that your time together is spent in public or in the company of friends or family members – this way, the public acts as a chaperone.
• You will, at this stage, also get to meet and know each others’ families

A truly virtuous and honourable man will defend your purity, your honour, and your reputation. If he is not doing this, he will not make a good husband or father as he has no clue on protecting and defending his family. Lack of self control in courtship will often come up as lack of self control in marriage and men like these often have affairs in their marriage. Avoid!!

If at any time during the courtship he compromises your honour and purity, or consistently tries to push for any form of physical intimacy, dump him!!
He does not care about you at all.

Having sex with him will not guarantee you marry him – SEE THIS

ENGAGEMENT/BETROTHAL STAGE

The engagement is when you make the decision to get married.

It generally begins with him asking your parents or family elders for your hand in marriage and then proposing to you.

In ancient times, the Church did not consider a couple actually married until they underwent the rite of Betrothal.

Although, the use of this rite has fallen to the side, a lot of traditional Catholics are bringing it back into practice.

So after the proposal and engagement, you should both go to the Priest to get betrothed

Once you get betrothed, you are both bound to marriage unless it is a grave cause.

The Stages Of Dating

During this period, there should be limited and very moderated signs of affection, as you are still not married yet.

The length of this stage should be between 3-5 months and it culminates with your Nuptial Mass.

Highlights of this stage:

• Do not get engaged before the 1 year mark – you need an entire year minimum to be able to view this person in all seasons and situations, watching how they react to people or stressful situations.
• To avoid near occasion of sin, any signs of affection should be very limited and in small doses.
• Avoid alone time together.
• Yes, you can hold hands occasionally or give a slight peck, but definitely no French-kissing. For reasons why, read my article on The Perils of Passionate Kissing for The Unmarried.
• You can now begin to show signs of submission to him ie deferring to him on major decisions and so on as you both plan for your coming wedding and marriage
• You should still be practising self-control and he should still be showing self-denial towards you at this stage. If he is unable to deny himself now, he would be unable to deny himself after marriage and he would indulge in porn, adultery and sexual affairs with other women.

By adhering to the above guidelines for a holy courtship, you can look forward to having a happy, holy and faithful marriage

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What does dating even mean anymore? The exact definition of dating has largely remained the same, but how dating looks when put into practice changes drastically depending on the society and times we live in. The way people date today is entirely different than the way our parents dated, which is entirely different than the way their parents dated.

Dating

And while it’s often a fun and fascinating topic, it can be confusing to figure out the various stages of dating and what they mean for a relationship. Some things remain the same throughout the ages—there is usually some sort of meeting point, some sort of first date, some sort of conversation to define where you are going—but some things are much more fluid that it’s hard to know where you stand with someone.

To help you find your footing, here are a few of the major stages of dating that are important to know and think about:

Stage 1: The Meeting
Everyone has to meet to date. That will always be true, whether it is 1918, 2019, or 50 years from now—you have to meet to date. Meeting, of course, looks different now than it did in the past. You can “meet” someone on Twitter and be “friends” with them for six years before ever physically meeting in person. It’s up to you to decide when you meet in person while using a dating app or through social media. But one thing is true—meeting is an incredibly important stage of dating a person.

Stage 2: Establishing a Crush
Crushes are fun but also, well, potentially crushing. Developing feelings for someone is usually the fun part, but by the time you realize you have a bonafide crush, the complications have settled in. Maybe the person you’re into is dating someone else. Maybe they’re straight and you are not. Maybe they’re your coworker and you know human resources doesn’t support company romance. There are a lot of big obstacles around having feelings for a person, but most of the time, they’re surmountable.

A major stage of dating, however, is that moment when you know you have a crush or legitimate feelings for another person.

Stage 3: Declaring a Crush
Perhaps just as important as having a crush, is making it known to the person you’re crushing on. This stage is super important because it makes or breaks the future. Maybe your [friend, coworker, stranger in a bar, person on a dating app, longtime Twitter mutual] has feelings for you too. Great! If so, you’re onto the next step. But maybe they don’t. Maybe the whole saga ends here. We call it a crush for a reason—it’s the stage where you’ll discover whether that person stays a crush or you move on to something more than that.

Stage 4: The Awkwardness
This stage is hard to know but almost all of us have been here. Regardless of if you just met or have known each other for a super long time but have finally taken the next step, there is most likely going to be an awkward stage at the beginning of your dating relationship.

This can occur on your first date, or right before it, or even right after it, but there will likely be an awkward feelings exchange for a bit of time before you settle into your new normal. It can be awkward to start dating your best friend after just being pals for years. It can be awkward to take innocent Twitter flirting to a stage where you are now going to a nice dinner and talking in real life. It can be awkward to interact with someone after sleeping together or kissing for the first time. It happens, and it is really sweet. When you’re getting closer to someone there are a lot of barriers to overcome and some are easier than other. Embrace the awkwardness and try not to let it freak you out. Feeling unsure, wondering if they like you as much as you like them, not knowing if you should text or call or invite them to that thing or invite yourself to that other thing… this is all just part of the fun of the awkward stage.

Stages Of A New Relationship

Stage 5: The First Date(s)
While this can be a stage that occurs simultaneously with the awkward stage, it’s a definite major stage in dating. You have to have a first “date” in some sense of the word. Even if your first date is just the two of you hanging out on a couch drinking wine and watching television—if it happens post-feelings declaration, it counts.

Stage 6: The “What Are We?” Stage
Maybe everyone’s least favorite stage, “What Are We?” is frequently called “defining the relationship” or the “exclusive relationship talk.” After hanging out or dating for awhile, it’s inevitable that you’ll need to decide what you’re doing. Is this just casual? Are we just hanging out? Are we seeing other people? Do you want to see other people? Are you in love? There are so many questions that go into defining the relationship, and while it can be an incredibly anxiety-inducing conversation, it is also a very important one to have. You may want to keep things casual while your partner wants to be exclusive. It is important to establish that as early on as you can in order to spare feelings.

If you both want to be together, exclusively, great! The next stage is a good one.

Stage 7: The Lovey Dovey Stage
Not every serious couple has to be in love, of course. However, chances are if you have successfully managed the other stages, you will eventually meet this one head-on. Being in love is incredible. It’s such a special feeling to love and be loved in return. Whether or not this stage looks like exchanging sweet nothings on the phone or in person every night, or if it is more of a general feeling, it’s a really special place to be. It’s when you’re both smitten and enjoying your time together, learning new things about each other, and growing as a couple.

Stage 8: Being a Partner
The “final” stage (because real relationships really have no end or final stage) looks drastically different for so many people. Maybe partnership for you means a long-term relationship that’s never legally bound. Maybe this means an engagement and a marriage and kids and everything that comes along with it. Maybe this just means the complete comfort and familiarity of loving someone long-term. Maybe it means moving in together and being completely content in just being the two of you. Regardless of how it looks for you, the partnership stage is where two people who have worked through and been through good times and bad, and come out continuing to choose one another.

Dating is fun. Dating is also scary and unclear and worrisome and magical and lovely and unique and delightful. There are so many different stages of dating to experience before the partnership stage, and even then, you get to enter whole new relationship stages that each bring their own unique challenges and benefits.

Early Stages Of A Relationship

While everyone’s relationship will look different from each other’s, the main stages will be familiar to most couples in one way or another. Enjoy them and enjoy each other. It may very well be that you’ll discover a stage we haven’t mentioned here, and it might just be your favorite stage of all.

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